[10.6] Prevent notes on confidential issues from being sent to chat
See merge request gitlab/gitlabhq!2366
# Conflicts:
# app/helpers/services_helper.rb
This removes all usage of soft removals except for the "pending delete"
system implemented for projects. This in turn simplifies all the query
plans of the models that used soft removals. Since we don't really use
soft removals for anything useful there's no point in keeping it around.
This _does_ mean that hard removals of issues (which only admins can do
if I'm not mistaken) can influence the "iid" values, but that code is
broken to begin with. More on this (and how to fix it) can be found in
https://gitlab.com/gitlab-org/gitlab-ce/issues/31114.
Fixes https://gitlab.com/gitlab-org/gitlab-ce/issues/37447
